5 Steps to put the Focus Back on You

Nothing pains me more than to hear women comparing themselves or their business to other people because they think they should be better at this or that or further along than they are.

No one knows what’s going on behind closed doors or what that person you are comparing yourself to had to endure to get to where they are now or how long they’ve been at it. Behind an overnight Success is usually years of struggle and hard work!

It took Wendy, the soul and sass behind crowned for success, going through cancer, 2 surgeries, a dysfunctional marriage, a bad break up,  body image issues, years of self-doubt and 15 years of working my butt off in Corporate America before I dreamt up and launched my dream business.

That’s the REAL story behind Crowned for Success.  Yes, we’ve only been on Instagram for 1 year and yes it’s a six-figure business.

But look at the previous paragraph and the hell I endured to dream up this company and obstacles I had to overcome to make it a reality.

So please do yourself a favor and stop the flood of insecure thoughts that rush through your mind every time you compare yourself to someone else.

Trust that you are right where you are meant to be!

If you have a story to tell, if you have a product or service to sell and you come from a place of love and you mean well and you put in the work, the Universe will conspire to make it all happen!

Trust in that.

In the meantime, your focus and energy should be on YOU and creating an even more fabulous version of yourself. You can’t do that if you’re always worried about what someone else is doing or how much more successful someone else is.

Now, don’t get me wrong we all get jealous sometimes, we are human. But it’s not healthy to let jealousy consume you so much that you begin negative self-talk or start beating yourself up over it.


Put the focus back on you and try implementing the daily steps below to find your light instead…

  1.  Upon waking list off at least 5 things you’re grateful for. Keep a gratitude journal so you can refer back to all that you have to be thankful for when self-doubt starts to creep back in.
  2. Try meditating, if even just for 10min daily. This is a great way to clear your mind of all thoughts especially the negative ones.
  3.  Say and feel at least 3 positive affirmations. Make them realistic and believable so that it allows you to FEEL them. Feeling affirmations is key to making them a reality.
  4.  Give or pay it forward. It doesn’t have to be monetary but your goal should be to give to at least one person each day that isn’t a family member. This can be advice, a genuine compliment, asking someone how you can support them, empathy, a listening ear, a bottle of water, a cup of coffee, a cut in line at the grocery store. This is a great way to take the focus off of your flaws (we all have them) and find kindness within yourself instead. Plus the Universe always rewards giving back, tenfold.
  5. Be mindful of your thoughts and your words. They carry a lot of energy both negative and positive. Try to monitor them, keep them in the positive zone as much as possible.

All the steps above will help you become more aware of your inner thoughts, making it easier to stop the comparing and begin to put the focus back to where it belongs, on fabulous YOU!


A'isha LaDon

Instructional Designer

Peace & Blessings beloved. I am Aisha LaDon. I am an Instructional Designer with a background in Brand Design, Graphic Design, Desktop Publishing, Web Design, Instructional Design, UI/UX. I am a bookworm and lover of all things creative and spiritual. Below you will find the articles that I have written here with the team at Crowned For Success. I pray that you find benefit in what we share. I love working with creative, spiritual womenprenuers that are here to inspire change in the world. I specialize in online course design, development, administration, management, and training with WordPress LearnDash and Moodle LMS Life is good, have a blessed day.

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