You Have a Choice

All that you create or do not create in your life, comes from choice. Embrace and understand the dynamics of this essential ingredient of power. You suffer when you dis-empower yourself by feeling that you are not in control of your destiny. Freedom lies in understanding that you choose everything! Even in “inaction” there is a choice. In reality there is no true inaction or stagnation.

You can justify your situation by proclaiming, “I have no choice”, “I cannot do anything to change my circumstances”, “there is nothing I can do” etc. That is a false belief. You can “choose” to allow the outer world to affect how you see your situation, yet there is never a situation in which you do not have power and a choice.

With each choice, there is a consequence and a price that must be paid. So, it is not that you do not have a choice, you are only choosing which price you choose to pay.

If you are currently in a working situation in which you are unhappy, you can make several choices.

You can choose to stay because you are fearful of change, of the economy or whether or not you can find another means of income. The price you will pay for this choice is continued feelings of boredom, anger, hopelessness, and depression. Eventually this feeling will affect other areas of your life.

You can choose to stay yet, change the energy of how you see your situation. The simple act of using an empowering thoughts can create a dramatic change in how you see your situation. “I will stay in this job because it is providing me with an income at this time. I will keep my eyes open for new opportunities and know that this is a temporary situation and I can choose again at any time”.

You can choose to leave the job with the understanding that you are a creative being and can manifest a new source of income. From an outer view, this looks as if it is the most “expensive” choice in terms of energy. Yet, on another level it is not. What is required is a profound faith.

The first of these three examples is actually the most “expensive”, but to continue to live under such circumstances may rob you of your life force. The most gentle of the three is the second option and the most daring and magical is the last.

The same wisdom applies to relationships (both platonic and romantic)

You can choose to stay in an unhappy, stagnant or abusive relationship. You can continue to complain about how miserable you are and how you cannot leave the relationship for various reasons. You can justify and make excuses for your circumstances yet, all the while you may continue to live in anxiety and pain. You can choose to continually dream about what else may be out there for you, never giving yourself an opportunity to explore the possibilities. The price for this choice may be insurmountable.

You can choose to stay in the relationship with the affirmation of “I love this person and I choose to communicate my feelings with them to help bring about the needed changes. I will focus on the positive qualities and begin to let those be the guiding force. After a period of time, if I am still unhappy and see that the situation will not change, then I can choose again”. By doing this, you empower yourself by knowing that you are staying because it is YOUR CHOICE, not because you have no other options.

You can choose to leave the relationship and understand that this choice may lead to some pain and loneliness for a short time. You may feel sadness and loss, yet with that will come an undeniable sense of freedom. The level of your anxiety, negative thoughts and feelings will diminish, making way for a higher life affirming energy. Your affirmation would be “I am choosing to leave this relationship/friendship because it is not contributing to my joy and ultimate happiness. I know it may be painful for a little while, but I also know there are billions of people on the planet and numerous opportunities to meet new friends.”

When you use the words choose or choice in an affirmation, prayer or thought, your ears and the ears of the angels perk up and they listen. You can begin to realign your world to meet that choice. There is so much magic in the understanding of this wisdom.

The same principle applies to what you view as “missing” in your life. You want to create a business, prosperity, a new job or a relationship yet you see that nothing is manifesting in your life. You can CHOOSE how you see your situation. You can make conscious choices as to how to get to the place you want to be. Statements like “I will never work for myself, I do not have the means to create my own business.” “I will never find a good job”, “I will never meet my soulmate”, “I will always be poor”, “I will never get what I want”, all reinforce the CHOICE to create more of the same.

Choose creative and life affirming statements and thought forms and watch how your life is transformed.

I choose to take steps to immerse myself in the knowledge and learning I need to start my own business. I choose to put all my energy to creating what I want.

I choose to know that there is a wonderful abundance of potential life partners and friends in the world for me. I choose to attract individuals who I will enjoy being with.

I choose to embrace health and vitality.

I choose to feel good.

I choose to allow prosperity to flow into my life.

I choose to allow my spiritual insight and faith to be my guiding force.


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Phaedrea Watkins

Phaedrea is an advocate for women to who dare to dream big dreams, in pursuit of starting a business or their own side hustle. Phaedrea is co-author in Volume 7 of the best-selling book series titled, “20 Beautiful Women”, a collection of personal short stories from 20 women authors, speakers, and life coaches. She has also created “Today is Your Day”, a 90-Day motivational journal. She is currently working on additional writings. Phaedrea holds a Bachelors in Biology and a Masters in Business Administration. Though she has worked in corporate for many years, she has always had an itch to thrive as an entrepreneur, and wants to serve as motivation and encouragement for others to press through challenging times to realize their dreams. Phaedrea is the wife of an Army veteran, mom to two beautiful children, a serial entrepreneur, author, Realtor®, and mentor to young adults. Instagram: @phaedreawatkins Email: Website:

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